Mentorship Feature – Terence & Jiafen

๐˜๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข ๐˜บ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฑ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜›๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ (๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ) ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜Š๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜‘๐˜ช๐˜ข ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ (๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ) โ€“ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ฌ-๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ!

๐™ƒ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ ๐™Ÿ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™ก๐™ž๐™ ๐™š ๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™—๐™š๐™œ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ?

JF: It was a little awkward at the start for me, but the ice was broken pretty quickly afterwards. I went into the mentorship program not expecting anything, just with the mindset of making a new friend!

T: It was quite comfortable for me โ€“ we hit it off quite well, probably because we are from the same school (School of Law), so we had similar conversation topics. Our 1st meeting was at the Prata place near Bencoolen.

๐™’๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฎ ๐™™๐™ž๐™›๐™›๐™ž๐™˜๐™ช๐™ก๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™š๐™จ/๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ช๐™œ๐™œ๐™ก๐™š๐™จ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™›๐™–๐™˜๐™š๐™™ ๐™™๐™ช๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ?

JF: Finding the right balance between seeking for guidance and seeking for answers! Sometimes it is easier to seek answers from Terence but I realised that I have to also learn to seek the answers for myself.

T: Being a mentor for the first time was challenging. There were different areas I wanted to work with Jia Fen, but I thought it was most important to build rapport with her. I don’t warm up to people fast, so it was interesting having to be the one to initiate interactions. Thankfully, she was very easygoing and that made things much easier.

๐™’๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™—๐™ž๐™œ๐™œ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ ๐™š๐™–๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ ๐™›๐™ง๐™ค๐™ข ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ?

JF: To have been taught enough that I am able to pass it on to my mentee because I was able to gain my footing in ASMU through this mentorship journey. After receiving and learning, I look forward to be able to make the same difference in another Ambassadorโ€™s ASMU experience!

T: Mentorship is less of a hierarchical relationship, but more of a friendship. If you see it that way, you can have a bond that lasts beyond the one year.

๐™€๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™œ๐™ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ ๐™Ÿ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™๐™–๐™จ ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ข๐™–๐™ก๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™™๐™š๐™™ ๐™–๐™›๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™– ๐™ฎ๐™š๐™–๐™ง, ๐™๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ง๐™š๐™ก๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ ๐™—๐™š๐™ฉ๐™ฌ๐™š๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™—๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช?

JF: We still keep in contact!

T: Jia Fen still approaches me for advice about EXCO!

๐™„๐™› ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™™๐™š๐™จ๐™˜๐™ง๐™ž๐™—๐™š ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ ๐™Ÿ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™ž๐™ฃ 3 ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™™๐™จ, ๐™ฌ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ก๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™—๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ฎ?

JF: ๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ, ๐˜Ž๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜‰๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต
Terence was always generous with his support. I never felt alone during the early stages (in ASMU) when I was trying to figure out who I was as an Ambassador, and that was what made my first year so enjoyable. Being a mentee was one of the best parts of my ASMU (and SMU) experience.

T: ๐˜๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฑ, ๐˜›๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต
I believe in becoming friends first, before mentorship. I think you need trust and commitment to succeed in any mentorship journey.

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