𝘐𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘢 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘛𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘠𝘦𝘰 (𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘰𝘳) 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘊𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘑𝘪𝘢 𝘍𝘦𝘯 (𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘦) – 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘤𝘬-𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮!
𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜?
JF: It was a little awkward at the start for me, but the ice was broken pretty quickly afterwards. I went into the mentorship program not expecting anything, just with the mindset of making a new friend!
T: It was quite comfortable for me – we hit it off quite well, probably because we are from the same school (School of Law), so we had similar conversation topics. Our 1st meeting was at the Prata place near Bencoolen.
𝙒𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙙𝙞𝙛𝙛𝙞𝙘𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙨/𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙜𝙜𝙡𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙚𝙙 𝙙𝙪𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥?
JF: Finding the right balance between seeking for guidance and seeking for answers! Sometimes it is easier to seek answers from Terence but I realised that I have to also learn to seek the answers for myself.
T: Being a mentor for the first time was challenging. There were different areas I wanted to work with Jia Fen, but I thought it was most important to build rapport with her. I don’t warm up to people fast, so it was interesting having to be the one to initiate interactions. Thankfully, she was very easygoing and that made things much easier.
𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙗𝙞𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥?
JF: To have been taught enough that I am able to pass it on to my mentee because I was able to gain my footing in ASMU through this mentorship journey. After receiving and learning, I look forward to be able to make the same difference in another Ambassador’s ASMU experience!
T: Mentorship is less of a hierarchical relationship, but more of a friendship. If you see it that way, you can have a bond that lasts beyond the one year.
𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙖 𝙮𝙚𝙖𝙧, 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙤𝙩𝙝 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪?
JF: We still keep in contact!
T: Jia Fen still approaches me for advice about EXCO!
𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙘𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙞𝙣 3 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙨, 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙗𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙮?
JF: 𝘚𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦, 𝘎𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘉𝘦𝘴𝘵
Terence was always generous with his support. I never felt alone during the early stages (in ASMU) when I was trying to figure out who I was as an Ambassador, and that was what made my first year so enjoyable. Being a mentee was one of the best parts of my ASMU (and SMU) experience.
T: 𝘍𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱, 𝘛𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵
I believe in becoming friends first, before mentorship. I think you need trust and commitment to succeed in any mentorship journey.